The art of not judging everyone you see.

Show of hands for anyone joining us that is absolutely perfect…

Oh, nobody raised their hands that’s great because nobody is. I have a strict policy with myself to not judge others until I give them a fair chance to show me who they really are. Now, if your true colors are an ugly shade of brown then we don’t need to go any further.

Today I was in boxed by a female who I don’t even know and she started sending me multiple messages telling me shes been following my fitness journey and here is a few things I am completely failing at. I welcome constructive criticism because I understand I am not perfect, I  do not know everything, and there is always room for improvement. However, this wasn’t really constructive at all this random female just came to me and starting attacking my journey, I would be lying if I said it didn’t upset me. The thing is fitness journey’s are hard to begin with. They take time, patience, discipline and a ton of other things.  For someone to come in and start their message with “girllllll, let me tell you.” It just came off so wrong. If she was trying to help me it did not seem that way. What she didn’t understand or even investigate before she want on her rant about how I am wrong and she knows all, I am only three months in to my journey. On the grand timeline of life that is nothing. I am a beginner at best. I research, I read blogs, I set goals, I watch YouTube videos, I track everything I eat, and sometimes even doing all this at the end of the night I end up crying because I feel like I did something to fail that day. She saw one picture and judged me, she thought it was her place to come at me as a fellow female about what I do wrong and what she does perfectly.

This is the reason I don’t judge people. If someone asks me for advice I will give them it the best way I know how. However, I don’t go around sticking my nose in other people’s inboxes to shed light on what they do wrong. I don’t know what they are struggling with, I don’t know the personal battles they fight every day, I have no idea whats going on in their life. Seeing a few pictures over social media does not allow me to know enough about a person to then throw judgment at them.

I truly just think it’s an unfair way to try and begin a healthy structured conversation. In this particular situation if she would have said “Hey, I have been keeping pretty good tabs on your journey and I noticed a few things that might need tweaking would you like some help?” The whole thing would have went a completely different way. I would have welcomed the advice had it not been thrown at me like I needed to be ashamed of my progress.

So people please the next time you think the door is open for you to go ahead and judge someone because it seems like you know more than them, have more than them, or have been on this earth longer than them. Please take a second and understand that nobody wants to be judged. Nobody wakes up in the morning hoping to run into a super judgmental person. Take a second open your mind, and understand that approach is everything. After all judging people really doesn’t say much about them, but it does say everything about you.